Oh hi there! You may have noticed that Paco left all the guilds and then you may have gotten a mail from her bashing me. To be honest, I don’t really know what to say about the whole situation so I’ll do what I always do. Lay it out.
Paco got mad at me because someone else made a discord server for IGNH (Insert Guild Name Here). Then she stopped talking to me … three months ago.
There’s a pandemic on, and my work is slammed right now. My employees all rely on me speaking for hours at a time, and I’m surrounded by forest fires and breathing smoke 24 hours a day. This means I’m dealing with added pressure knowing that, with so many families out of work, I HAVE to perform. Forest fires be damned. That’s why I’ve been so AFK from the game lately.
I don’t force people to talk to me. I don’t pry. I don’t dig into pasts and ask uncomfortable questions. I let you tell me about you if/when you want to and I base our relationships on our own interactions.
Because Paco was not speaking to me, I stopped using all my officer chats to give her space. I found out a few days ago that she was refusing to pass on guild information to me during this time.
I decided enough was enough and removed her from the officer chats in all guilds but TAH (The Auction House). There’s a lot going on in the world and I know she loved that guild and didn’t want to take it from her. I also rearranged the guild ranks so that Paco could no longer remove members from the guild as an added precaution. I didn’t expect her to remove all guild members and rage quit, but we’ve all heard horror stories.
I blocked her on fb and moved on. I don’t have time for passive aggressive cold shoulders right now. I really hate losing half a decade of friendship because someone made a discord server, but I guess that’s where we are, eh? I never imagined she would just refuse to engage with me over something like that.
Paco left all the guilds with all her accounts, including the guild auction account and all of the donations and items that were on that account.
I’ve gotten numerous messages in the last 24 hours telling me … well, saying all kinds of things. Here’s the rest of what I will say about it.
If Paco mistreated you, I’m sorry. She felt that everyone was taking sides against her. There were no sides, we’re literally just trying to live in a world that is unlike anything we’ve ever experienced. Please don’t hold it against her, She felt attacked, I’m sure. She probably figured we were all sitting here talking about it when, in reality, we’re all just busy. There is a pandemic on.
If you made a donation to the auction, it’s gone. I’m sorry. We’ll rebuild as we always do. There’s a reason we are one of the oldest guilds in ESO. Because I’m stubborn as fuck and refuse to give up.
I am not mad at her for taking those donations, I’m disappointed that she felt our friendship was worth throwing away over a discord, of all things. I thought I was worth more than that to her, but I guess you live and you learn.
OK, that’s it, I’m spent. I haven’t even had coffee yet and have already wrote a novella. If you decide to leave the guilds because Paco left, I understand, but I won’t hold your place. I also won’t hold it against you. You can always, ALWAYS return.
Remain awesome and be safe out/in there,
AC
OH – as an FYI and this is basically going to be my only rebuttal to whatever she says- to those of you getting mails from her, there never WAS a guild officer FB group message. There WAS a group message that had some officers in it, but not all, as well as people who even no longer play the game. I didn’t leave some “official officer message group chat”, I left a group chat with a few friends where we tried to focus on non-guild things specifically because all the officers weren’t in there and we didn’t want them to feel left out of some special group. There were occasional guild discussions, but the group was actually formed specifically over the Mrs. Norrell fiasco.
6/22 UPDATE:
Paco is now returning the items that were donated to the people who donated them.